Alone Time Is A Necessity

Alone time can increase your happiness, creativity, and productivity

Did you know that alone time can increase your happiness, creativity, and productivity?

Even if you're the type that gets energized by the hustle, it's important to have alone time without distractions or to-dos. 

Alone time also helps feelings of overwhelm.

By nature I'm a searcher so if I don’t understand something I’ll seek answers. But instead of reading one article, book, or blog I’ll read ten (or more) which completely overwhelms me and then it’s nap time.

Crowds and social situations overwhelm me too. Maybe because I'm triple Pisces and an INFJ? I can talk, mingle, even crack jokes but it drains me. That’s when alone time comes to the rescue. Being alone gives me a chance to recharge and process everything that is in my mind and heart. 

Ever think about how much information we process in a day? Passwords, shapes, voices, tasks, emotions, comments, lists, numbers, decisions, etc … I don’t know about you but it exhausts me.

In this fast paced "everything at your fingertips" world I need alone time more than ever. Even the lines on my palms say so ...

While in New Orleans this past October I had a palm reading and I’m telling you, the hairs on my neck stood up when she started telling me about me.

Apparently there is a line on both of my hands that splits in two and this line shows how much alone time I actually need. Which apparently is a lot. And not just day to day alone time but also solo getaways on my own time.

Luckily my husband Alex is supportive of my alone time. He encourages me to take "my trips" and clears out if he senses I need "my time." He gets it because he needs it too. 

Now all this alone time might sound selfish, scary, or even impossible. But chances are the busier your life is the more likely alone time will benefit you.

Because when I have my alone time I'm taking care of me. 

I'm happier, more creative, more interesting, and more FUN. I have stories to tell and adventures to write down. It helps me be a better person to myself and those around me. 

Alone time can increase your happiness, creativity, and productivity

I believe alone time is crucial to our relationships, happiness, and growth. Most importantly, it helps ignite our creative fire.

When we give ourselves the time and space to read, write, think, dream, create, visualize, and just be we open the door to our deepest desires.

So this week try to get some alone time in. An hour, a day, a week. Even if it feels selfish or impossible - find a way and do it.

Remember that by giving yourself alone time without distractions or to-dos you are recharging yourself which helps you recharge those around you.

Long Term Relationships

I think the hardest thing about being in a long-term relationship is the monotony.

It's the everyday schedule/routine, chores, and house duties that take a toll on loving the one you're with. Maybe some people find comfort and security in sameness but Alex and I don't.

We're adventurers at heart and we like to explore. So when things get too monotonous we're ready to GET OUT.

Taking a drive and letting the road be our guide has always been a way for us to get back to US. In fact, it's how "we" began.

One of our first dates was a late night drive down the Sacramento Delta. Alex had made me a special mixed tape and played it while we cruised in his 1973 Datsun 510.

I'll never forget that night. I couldn't believe someone so special and unique existed.

Fast forward 17 years (and a couple of "new" vintage cars later) and a we're still exploring almost every weekend. Taking drives has become our medicine and the car is our "rolling confessional."

It's a space we feel comfortable in. Listening to mixed tapes on our 80's boombox and getting away from the city allows us one on one time. We can talk or be silent but we're together.

So when find yourself in a love rut and feeling the day-to-day monotony get out, explore, and take a drive. Make it simple without an agenda and let the road be your guide.